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Emotionally Focused Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based, attachment-focused approach to therapy that helps individuals and couples better understand their emotions, strengthen their relationships, and create lasting change.
Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT is based on the understanding that our need for connection, safety, and belonging is a fundamental part of being human.
Rather than focusing solely on changing thoughts or behaviours, EFT helps clients explore the emotions and attachment needs that shape their experiences and relationships. Through this process, clients develop a deeper understanding of themselves and learn new ways of responding to emotional challenges.
EFT for Individuals (EFIT)
Many of our struggles can be understood through the lens of attachment and emotional experience. Anxiety, depression, self-criticism, relationship difficulties, and the impact of trauma often stem from patterns that developed in response to our need for safety, connection, and protection.
Using EFT, we help individuals:
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Better understand and regulate difficult emotions
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Explore patterns that may be keeping them stuck
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Develop greater self-compassion and emotional resilience
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Heal the impact of past experiences and attachment wounds
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Build more secure and fulfilling relationships
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Strengthen their sense of self and emotional well-being
EFT provides a supportive space to explore your experiences with curiosity and compassion, helping you move toward greater emotional clarity and connection with yourself.
Why Attachment Matters
Attachment refers to our need for safe, supportive relationships. The ways we learned to connect with others early in life can continue to influence how we experience relationships as adults.
When we feel emotionally disconnected or unsupported, we may respond by withdrawing, becoming critical, seeking reassurance, or feeling overwhelmed. EFT helps make sense of these reactions and supports the development of more secure ways of relating to ourselves and others.
EFT for Couples (EFCT)
Relationships can become stuck in painful cycles of conflict, distance, misunderstanding, or disconnection. Often, beneath arguments about communication, intimacy, parenting, or trust are deeper emotions and attachment needs that remain unseen or unspoken.
EFT helps couples:
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Identify and understand negative interaction patterns
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Improve communication and emotional responsiveness
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Strengthen trust and emotional safety
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Repair injuries and rebuild connection
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Navigate life transitions and relationship stressors
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Create a more secure, supportive partnership
Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, EFT helps partners understand the cycle they are caught in and work together to create new patterns of connection.
EFT with Kumsal
As an EFT therapist, Kumsal views emotional experiences as valuable sources of information rather than problems to eliminate.
Her approach is warm, collaborative, and grounded in trauma-informed care. She integrates EFT with other evidence-based approaches, including CBT, DBT, mindfulness, and psychodynamic perspectives, while maintaining a focus on emotional processing and attachment.
Whether you are seeking support as an individual or as a couple, therapy can provide an opportunity to understand your experiences better, strengthen your relationships, and create meaningful, lasting change.
If you're interested in learning more about EFT or exploring whether it may be a good fit for your needs, we welcome you to reach out for a consultation.
Contact Us
We provide a free 15-minute consultation to connect and determine whether we are a good fit. It will also give us a better idea of the issues you are looking for support with and how we can support you.
Are you ready to establish our healing connection?
You can email us at hello@ourhealingconnection.ca
to request an appointment.
